Boredom cards

‘Mummy! I’m so bored!’
A phrase that I hear a lot in my house; despite my girls having an abundance of learning resources, books, toys and attention, they still seem to suffer from boredom.
In some cases, boredom can be a gift; it can be the fuse that channels the spark of creativity and imagination. In other cases, boredom can be so intense that the child just can’t seem to escape the rut and this can lead to restlessness and frustration.

Ava can get bored very easily and tends to move from one task onto another, within minutes. There has been a few occasions where boredom has dominated the day and every suggestion that I made was rejected – for my daughter to still grumble the words ‘I’m bored’.

This is where the boredom cards come in! Here they are.

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But, how do they work? I hear you ask.

If I hear Ava mutters the words ‘I’m bored’ I get the boredom cards out, place them all face down and then she selects a card at random.
I think she’s more open to a suggestion that comes from (in her mind) a ‘game’.
For example, if I had just suggested to draw a picture she would be less interested than if she picked the activity at random. It seems to make suggestions fun and from the child’s perspective, they chose the activity of their own free will.

Below I have written some examples of the activities within our boredom cards but you can put whatever you like on your boredom cards, depending on your child’s hobbies.

  1. Read a book
  2. Draw a picture
  3. Potato printing
  4. Go for a walk
  5. Play in the garden
  6. Take care of baby dolls
  7. Build a den
  8. Play hide and seek
  9. Play a board game
  10. Learn something new
  11. Bake cakes
  12. Make someone a card
  13. Dance to some music
  14. Dress up
  15. Have a teddy bears picnic
  16. Create a puppet show
  17. Build with blocks
  18. Play ‘Shop’
  19. Make music
  20. Play with playdough

To make the boredom cards, I used editable templates from Twinkl.co.uk.

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Opposites attract..?

So, people say opposites attract… I’m not sure what people, but people do. From my experience, since becoming a mother, I have seen more animosity than anything when it comes to different parental approaches. Some people seem to behave like rowdy politicians in the House of Commons, but with far less tact or dignity.

When I was pregnant with my first child, I pictured a wonderful journey of bringing up this little person that was growing inside me. I imagined her, I was filled with excitement, love and pure joy. I never imagined I would be defending my parental choices to my friends, family and even strangers like it was some sort of political policy. I shouldn’t have to defend myself or validate my beliefs, nobody should. None of my choices are illegal or unethical, therefore, it isn’t anyone’s business how I wish to raise my children.

Isn’t it silly that friends and family can fall out and become hostile over a preference in parenting choices!? Parents feel they have to defend their methods almost. Would you defend the fact you liked to eat strawberry ice-cream to a friend that hated it and preferred vanilla? Would you try to make someone feel bad about preferring heavy metal if you preferred classical? Probably not!
So why on earth do some people feel it’s acceptable to bully others (because that’s what it is, let’s not sugarcoat it!) for their choices on how they wish to raise their children?

I’m far from innocent in this though, after all, we are all human and nobody is perfect. However, I have found that I have only disagreed with the opposition out of defence. For example, myself and a friend fell out when we had both just become new mothers. We both disagreed with one another’s (for some stupid reason) parenting approach, in particular this was about breast verses bottle – a common and often catty debate. I won’t go into the details of what was said on both parts, as it’s irrelevant. Anyway, needless to say, we achieved nothing from our disagreement.

I genuinely don’t care how people feed their child, educate their child, transport their child but when my methods were challenged, I became extremely defensive. Perhaps this is what is happening to a lot of people. Perhaps it’s a vicious cycle of defence mechanisms.

Even though I have fallen into the trap myself, I still don’t understand it. It doesn’t explain how it starts in the first place… I guess it’s a case of ‘what came first? The chicken, or the egg?’

I don’t know why people behave this way, all I know is, it is not acceptable. It’s nobodies business how someone decides to raise their children. Why can’t we all just get along and accept that everybody looks different, has different belief systems, holds different political views and everybody has different parenting approaches.

If you are someone who has criticised somebody else for their personal choices, ask yourself, ‘why?’
Ask yourself, ‘how does their choice affect me?’
If the answer is ‘it doesn’t’ and that person is causing no harm to their child, then I think you should perhaps consider the other persons feelings before you begin your shaming quest. If the answer is ‘it does’ then I highly recommend you seek professional help – or perhaps get a hobby or something!

Most parental decisions are not made on a whim and most parents generally research a lot. For example, I made the decision not to smack my children or use isolation methods (such as time out) as a form of discipline. You wouldn’t believe the amount of people who have said that my children will become spoilt. I have also heard the line ‘the problem with society these days is the fact parents feel like they can’t smack, that’s the reason for so much crime…’ this is probably the most uneducated response to my decision because roughly 90% of parents use isolation techniques and smack their children, so it’s hardly likely that all the criminals in the world are the 10% of children coming from smack free homes. The point I’m trying to make is, just because one method may work for one person, it doesn’t mean it will work for another. Parenting isn’t a case of ‘one size fits all’.
Not only that, it is my choice on how to raise my children!

Parenting should be an enjoyable journey, not a competition. There’s already enough judgement out there from officials without fellow parents, friends and family making it worse for one another. We should be helping one another respectfully, not criticising each other disrespectfully.

Life is too short. Live and let live.